Up Front: Oh, Grow Up
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Sacha, in reply to
easy
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Raymond A Francis, in reply to
Have to agree with that
One of the best times I have spent with my oldest son was as an Assistant Winemaker when he knew all and I knew nothing which allowed me to ask why -
Sacha, in reply to
I'm now routinely being mistaken for a 20-something
youthful complexion
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Emotionally we compare our insides with other people's outsides, a wise person once told me
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Maybe adulthood is in the same category as other "meaning of life" questions: you're an adult when you've decided for yourself what that means and how you want to answer it.
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BenWilson, in reply to
you're an adult when you've decided for yourself what that means and how you want to answer it.
How many goes do I get?
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Russell Brown, in reply to
But dammit I still wear sneakers!
I bought another t-shirt from the Huffer outlet on Sunday. I feel anachronistically old when I do that.
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Jackie Clark, in reply to
I often don't feel like an adult. Even though I live a life with a lot of pressure, and stress - as many of us do - I really wish I didn't. My dearest wish is for someone else to take care of it all - train the dog, look after the husband, pay the bills - and leave me to closet myself away, except when I feel like company. I also often feel pretty immature emotionally, even though I know that can't be the case most of the time. Fortunate, I guess, that I get to work with 3 and 4 yr olds all day then, I guess.
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Those lists of things people should be able to do to be proper… whatever. Men. Women. New Zealanders. Grown-ups. They’re normative and stereotype-reinforcing and they’re always going to make someone feel excluded and inferior.
Whats that called again ?'in grouping' or something. Huddle together to feel safe and warm. We are a neurotic species ...sometimes. Our collective moments of clarity are rare.
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Moz, in reply to
the font of all knowledge.
Comic Sans?
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Moz, in reply to
admit I’m a grown up … All the while paying a mortgage, raising a child, managing people and all those other grown-up things
I guess that makes me a child of 40-something :) I haven’t managed anyone or employed anyone since I turned 20, have never owned a house or had a child and the only sneakers I wear are old man style comfortable white shoe “sneakers”.
Living in Sydney makes a difference, because here a shoddy one bedroom apartment that only costs 10x the median wage will be half an hour by train from the CDB (median income being $40k/$70k for the household). Owning an actual house is out of the question (700k+). We’d rather pay rent than spend 20+ hours a week commuting (partner has done it, I prefer to learn from other people’s experience).
For me, adulthood was deciding that I have to go to the doctor myself. Which I think ties into Lucy’s “the buck stops with me” rather than any of the external symbols.
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Ben:
having begun my second undergraduate degree at the age of 41.
Moz: Comic Sans?
That would make knowledgeable Ben Bookman Old Style or Book Antiqua
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Islander, in reply to
It can be pretty interesting comparing the behaviours of people who have mental illnesses or other emotional disorders and know they need to deal with this stuff, and "normal" functioning adults who don't, and don't. It'
Or have very close family members - or friends- who have the mental illnesses/emotional disorders...
Another factor is actually being way outside the range for 'normal human,' yourself...speaking from experience, you generally get to the stage of "Hey! I accept the rest of you as you are- you either accept me as I am, or go bottle yourself - I dont give a damn."
Does take a thick hide & considerable (family& friend-enhanced)SELF- confidence...
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DexterX, in reply to
Behavioural Therapy should be taught in high school"
I have often wondered why Communication Styles, Behavioural Therapy or Rational Thinking is not taught - that to experience any emotion starts with thought.
This learning should start with the pre teens.
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On the "Oh Grow up" side of things - goings on in the house yesterday were telling:
http://img.scoop.co.nz/media/audio/1303/parliament_today_270313.mp3
Bleah - John Key - infantile - David Carter - dense.
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BenWilson, in reply to
I have often wondered why Communication Styles, Behavioural Therapy or Rational Thinking is not taught – that to experience any emotion starts with thought.
I think kids can do critical thinking courses in high school now. I don't know about the psychological ideas you're suggesting, though - they're quite specific, so don't really fit into the idea of a general syllabus. Electives maybe?
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Emma Hart, in reply to
I think kids can do critical thinking courses in high school now.
Philosophy is taught in some primary schools now, as well as secondaries. The problem is that, for some reason utterly beyond me, you can't get NCEA credits in philosophy. So the only kids who can afford to take it are those who have room after getting their necessary qualification-credits. (Except, y'know, the way my son's school is set up, he took PHIL and got all his ENGL literacy credits through it.)
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BenWilson, in reply to
The problem is that, for some reason utterly beyond me, you can’t get NCEA credits in philosophy.
It's been part of the IB syllabus since forever, though? I remember a teacher in Portuguese international school telling me about how she taught philosophy back in 1993.
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Russell Brown, in reply to
I think kids can do critical thinking courses in high school now.
Philosophy is taught in some primary schools now, as well as secondaries.
Leo, who hasn't been to school since form one (or whatever they call it these days), had been asking me the kind of questions which implied a need for the kind of intellectual framework I'm not well-equipped to provide.
Fortunately, I know a philosopher!
Dr Matthew Dentith has been Leo's philosophy and critical thinking tutor for a few months now, and it's been brilliant. They will quite often take their cue from an element of a video game and explore the ideas it invokes. They're usually in there for four hours, the last of which Matthew tells me is "chum time".
This has been such a great thing for us. I am in no hurry for Matthew to get a proper job, although his mileage may vary on that.
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BenWilson, in reply to
had been asking me the kind of questions which implied a need for the kind of intellectual framework I’m not well-equipped to provide.
The irony of that is that you are a natural critical thinker, as I see it. Which shows that it's something picked up across many fields already (in your case journalism), which is probably why it's debatable whether it should be taught as a core subject.
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Russell Brown, in reply to
The irony of that is that you are a natural critical thinker, as I see it.
Thank you. But still probably not a natural teacher of it. My logic is too fuzzy for that.
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BenWilson, in reply to
Not in general. You might be able to teach it for journalism perfectly well though.
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andin, in reply to
My logic is too fuzzy for that.
Yeah well, logic is kinda fuzzy, funny that!
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Ian Dalziel, in reply to
e-piffunny?
logic is kinda fuzzy...
aah!
ergo:
Grey Matter...
Ha!@ }:– )
Other pre-fast-breaking e-piffancies:Go Easter for less dis-Orientation...
happiness is a warm fuzzy...
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Sacha, in reply to
you can't get NCEA credits in philosophy
that's ridiculous
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