Legal Beagle: Think it possible that you may be mistaken
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Danielle, in reply to
“rape enablers”
I believe the term is "rape apologists".
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Graeme Edgeler, in reply to
I believe the term is “rape apologists”.
That's another term. But you might want to direct your correction to people who were referring to others as "rape enablers", not those whom they accused.
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Tom Beard, in reply to
“rape enablers”
I believe the term is "rape apologists".If your first response to a young woman talking about her friends being raped is not empathy but "Wow, what a load of sluts you are", then yeah. Both terms would apply.
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Craig Ranapia, in reply to
That’s another term. But you might want to direct your correction to people who were referring to others as “rape enablers”, not those whom they accused.
I've used both, and feel that they're perfectly accurate. If Messers Tamihere and Jackson wish to point a defamation lawyer in my direction, I'm not hard to find. But see above for why I'm not terribly inclined to sit still for a morals lecture from that quarter.
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Danielle, in reply to
But you might want to direct your correction to people who were referring to others as “rape enablers”, not those whom they accused.
You'll pardon me for being a little dubious about John Drinnan's characterisations of the people on Twitter who disagreed with him.
Incidentally, I asked you a direct question a few pages back, Graeme, and I'd love to have an answer.
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Tim Hannah, in reply to
Agree with what? That there are rape apologists, enablers active in these conversations? Well, obviously there are. Rapists even. Are you claiming there aren't?
Or were you called a rape enabler and are you now taking the opportunity to make sure your feels aren't ignored?
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john Drinnan, in reply to
Clearly they need a terminology update ...
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john Drinnan, in reply to
how do you mean Danielle?
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Danielle, in reply to
You characterised Gio's post on the matter as "triumphalist". I don't really trust your assessments of things, given past form.
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People who make excuses for an action (apologists): they enable that action.
In this case, rape.
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A C Young, in reply to
No obligation on anyone. I'm just asking.
What you appear to be asking is that people who don't have a huge public platform stay quiet unless they can respond via the forms of communication that currently grant them far less power.
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john Drinnan, in reply to
A lot of the arguments -mostly directed at the once removed media angle rather than the cardinal issue of sexual violence – are built around black and white notions where the view is there is a correct way to deal with an issue and an incorrect way. This is pretty normal in torts class I suppose – but argument caught with idea that the people who do not fully agree have no understanding about sexual violence and the effects. Because they differ they are rape enablers, apologists or just the masses who just don’t get it. This is arrogant.
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john Drinnan, in reply to
oh okay... snap
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Graeme Edgeler, in reply to
OK Graeme, here’s a question. Do you believe that structural inequality – of the type that privileges some voices over others – exists?
Sorry, missed it.
[Assuming I know what the term means] Yes, I do.
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Bart Janssen, in reply to
Clearly they need a terminology update …
It's RAPE dammit.
That's the bit where 17 and 18 year old rapists put their penises into the vaginas of 13 year old girls too drunk to resist.
And you men are arguing about whether you have the correct word and whether a public protest about apologists and enablers took the correct form.
Perhaps you should back up and start to think about how to stop your sons from raping so that we never ever have to have this discussion again.
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Graeme Edgeler, in reply to
What you appear to be asking is that people who don’t have a huge public platform stay quiet unless they can respond via the forms of communication that currently grant them far less power.
Well, I'm not. I'm expressing my concern about all forms of speech designed to silence others.
Referring in a derogatory way about the appearance of a female politician may be one of the few ways someone with very little power can make a point about that politician, but I'm asking them to consider not doing it anyway.
I would like to think such a person, even with very little power, could find another way to respond.
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Danielle, in reply to
Right. OK, cool. Now, given that you believe that it exists, why do you think it's appropriate that those whose voices aren't privileged need to "take their turn"? Because I think we've pretty clearly established that some people are taking much longer, louder turns than others when it comes to talking about rape.
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Tom Beard, in reply to
I'm expressing my concern about all forms of speech designed to silence others.
I wasn't aware that JT and Willie had had their vocal cords removed, or denied the same access to social media or blog comments that we all enjoy. I thought that this was about a radio station dropping some people who had abused the privilege that comes from a position of media power while bullying a young woman, because a public campaign made it clear to their advertisers that such behaviour was not what they wanted to hear.
But of course, that doesn't fit into an abstract academic discourse about "all forms of speech" that treats all speech acts as equal.
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Tom Beard, in reply to
Ok I think this might have gotten to me a little.
Shh, calm down, Bart. Then we can get back to the important topics, like what Rob Ford thinks of Bunnings.
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Emma Hart, in reply to
Because I think we’ve pretty clearly established that some people are taking much longer, louder turns than others when it comes to talking about rape.
And they're the people with the least skin in the game. So the discussion in its "natural" (ie socially-constructed) form supports the side of the argument with the least validity and the least experience. "Teaching women how to protect themselves from rape" (aw, bless 'em) is basically climate-change denial, except it's the dominant discourse.
Every time we get close to changing the balance of the conversation, to getting our point, and the evidence, a tiny bit across, suddenly we're bullying, and shrieking of course, and apparently trying to shut down every comedian in Britain...
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Graeme Edgeler, in reply to
why do you think it’s appropriate that those whose voices aren’t privileged need to “take their turn”?
Do you mean "wait their turn"? I never suggested they should. At least, I never intended to suggest that if I have. I absolutely endorse people who feel strongly about rape culture speaking out as much as possible.
Why do I think you should allow others to have their turn? Well, wouldn't it suck if the majority decided that your speech was dangerous, and shouldn't be allowed? Because there are people (thankfully not a majority) who think exactly that.
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Deborah, in reply to
No obligation on anyone. I’m just asking.
That's just a bit disingenuous. The way you're asking the questions makes it fairly clear that there's an answer that you think all reasonable people ought to give.
But it's a little close to being a devil's advocate - just asking the questions, just asking for explanations, just engaging in an interesting theoretical exercise, and the girls who were raped, and the on-going enabling of rape culture and misogyny are just interesting data points.
With respect, this is the stuff of our lives. It's not just an abstract exercise in thinking about political rights.
It would be great if you could engage with the actual harm done by rape culture enablers like JT and Willie Jackson instead of insisting that it's all about free speech.
Also, what Marama Davidson said.
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A C Young, in reply to
But of course, that doesn't fit into an abstract academic discourse about "all forms of speech" that treats all speech acts as equal.
Except apparently making derogatory references to female politicians, that has to stop (I'm actually in agreement with this but don't see why this is any different than silencing rape victims by bullying them).
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john Drinnan, in reply to
why aren;t people talking about the rape rather than how important it was to get rid of two people who were crap at handling a discussion about it - because its much simpler.
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A C Young, in reply to
People are doing both (and are donating to organisations designed to support rape victims).
There were some large protests over the weekend talking about rape....
It's not a binary prospect.
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