Posts by Robert Urquhart
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Hmm, photos from Kaiapoi on Monday. Adrienne did you happen to take any of a tall pākehā in a black jacket with a large number of shiny buttons? #almostindecentlyofftopic
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Hard News: The Mega Conspiracy, in reply to
Right, so how does Megaupload deactivate a hyperlink on a site that is not their own without deactivating the page linked to?
Simple - the target page doesn't actually contain any specific content. The link goes to a script which looks at the ID supplied in the URI and then serves up the media that ID is associated with.
Remove* the association between the ID and the media and the link containing the ID will no longer work. (The page will display whatever message it is programmed to in that instance.)
*or more likely just toggle a flag next to that ID in the database so you can still track how many people try to use that link.
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OnPoint: Association of Community…, in reply to
Joe Bennett has been called a curmudgeon at times but today he has hit a few nails on the head. (His opinion piece in te DomPsot not yet seen on Stuff)
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It was a loverly day on the Avon today ... (more at http://bit.ly/vCkQkb )
Not sure I have the same faith in the loverlyness of the Avon that my companions did, mind.
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Nobody wanted #EQNZ for the New Year either. How is everybody this morning?
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For the first one I was [shhh] in the porch of a red-stickered building considering boarding up a window people have been using as an entry/exit.
For the next one a few minutes later I was a safe distance away watching said 1908ish brick building flex and ripple and threaten to explode.
For the third (biggest) I was down the other end of the building by much later construction which was completely unmoved. We quit for the day at that point.
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Up Front: The Up Front Guides:…, in reply to
Does he want coffee or “coffee”?
Ah yes, the all important difference between going back to someones place for coffee (“coffee”) and going back to someones place for a hot beverage. Very important to know which one they mean when the invitation is made. #thereisthiskaosstoryphiltells....
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Up Front: The Up Front Guides:…, in reply to
Ah, this could indicate something quite different. Some women, myself included, have a "friend zone". Once you've been put in the Friend Zone, thinking of you in a romantic/sexual context requires a jarring mind-shift. Just getting your head around the idea, no matter how you feel about the individual, is discomforting
Oh yes I'm very familiar with the concept of the Friend Zone :-/ Like the nice guys/jerks theory it has its proponents and its detractors.
I also have a friend zone of sorts - generally a woman has to be in it before I start being interested in her as -more- than a friend*/"equally human". You can see how the two are at cross purposes...
*beyond instinctual biological stuff ... and that's a tangent into whether wanting to sleep with someone is "more than a friend" territory, which seem to be the socially dominant assumption. I think it's on a different axis myself.
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Up Front: The Up Front Guides:…, in reply to
I do often wonder that treating all women as being equally human, as I try to do, sends them the wrong signals. Many times I've ended up deeply involved in a conversation with a woman I don't have any physical attraction to, and then tuned in my social radar and thought "Oh fuck, she's hitting on me. Now what?". I end up looking like an arsehole anyway, when I then have to pull off an escape move.
Or the opposite case which is more my experience - apparently negating any signals that I might be interested, leading to complete surprise (followed by discomfort) on their part when I eventually broach the matter. And by eventually I mean after having gotten to know someone over a period of weeks or months, not the course of an evening.