Posts by Katharine Moody
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Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to ,
This might not seem like a big deal.
PS It is a big deal - and it should be remedied/addressed. Which is what my above post was meaning to address.
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Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to ,
Thanks steven - and I've got no problem with being disagreed with - at all. How could any of us purport to know 'truth' - and I say this in the pure scientific sense as well. I believe it's healthy to believe without proof.
Bad academia employs Dr Goodyear-smith.
Yes, makes me sick to my stomach.
And yes, treatment is in its infancy, but perhaps even more my personal bug bear, is the utter disdain we as a wider society seem to be prepared to devote in dollar terms to that treatment, and to prevention. And I guess my own personal view is that good research and science in academia would get us somewhere better. Just think if we had devoted as much to research in this area, as we have to research into climate change. Not that I'm a climate change denier, but what more knowledge do we need in order to take effective action? Contrast this with how little we know about how to take effective action in respect of child abuse, violence - and suicide prevention for all that matters;
We don't even have a Crown Research Institute devoted to social science. Yet where really are most of our societal ills grounded?
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Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to Joe Wylie,
No I can't, he's not named.
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Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to Joe Wylie,
I’m frankly puzzled as to why you’d single out a statement
I singled it out because he still walks and stalks among us;
On the night before I’m to meet my next Centrepoint informant, I mention this man’s name without further context to a couple who live in his Titirangi neighbourhood. The husband erupts in anger, shouting at me. An irrational fear creeps over me. After days of gruelling and volatile encounters, my overloaded brain can’t handle another CP drama. I lose it. It turns out the man in question has been stalking this couple’s daughter.
Should we be interviewing him for a book - or sending the police around?
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Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to Lilith __,
including people bizarrely attacking them as if they were exploiters
Of for goodness sake.
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Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to Lilith __,
examining the wider picture through face-to-face interviews with a wide variety of people directly involved, is tremendously valuable.
It is, I agree. Which is why I suggested wider collaboration, with experts in the field.
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Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to Lilith __,
for people with professional or personal experience to share their insights, and for the rest of us to listen respectfully.
What makes you think I have no professional or personal experience?
For avoidance of doubt, I do, and its personal, not professional experience. Look back to the book I linked to earlier - one of those case studies is part of my extended families' history.
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Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to Emma Hart,
We share the same interest - to stop this shit happening.
But no, I'm not talking about your mother - and that's part of my point - an overview, a book about Centrepoint for wider media consumption has the potential (in my opinion) to perhaps do more harm than good for many individuals affected by it. If it was written, I might read it for "interest" too - but I'd rather I (and a wider audience) read the Massey-type of study - as we might learn something far more valuable, as opposed to fulfill an "interest", or satisfy a curiosity. And even if I'm wrong, why would we want to do any more harm to anyone negatively affected anyway for the sake of the public interest?
Yes, we (society) need to understand far more about this wider problem. I just think our knowledge needs to be framed for the purposes of understanding, as opposed to interest. As I said earlier, we needed to listen to that guy who said,
“In the end,” he says, gripping his coffee mug hard, “guys will just be wanking over your stories.”
And ensure that we frame things and choose a venue for understanding such that it has no value in that regard.
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Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to Lilith __,
I’m sorry, but what the fuck? You think people get good sex techniques from being sexually abused?
This is what someone above (I think Emma) might have thought of John Potter. He quite likely was exposed to illegal sexual contact (that is sexual contact as a minor with adults) that he thinks benefited him sexually. Technically (in terms of the law) he was abused, but he may not think so.
What I'm saying is his point of view (his perspective on "the story") to those who feel/felt traumatised by similar contact aren't likely to find solace/healng in his perspective.
Hope that clarifies - as I in no way want to say things that upset. I am in every sense of the word horrified and outraged by the proliferation of child abuse (both sexual and physical) in our society.
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Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to chris,
I agree with everything you've said. I don't mean to imply all (or even most) of the responsibility for raising, nurturing and/or protection of children lies with females. I was raised by a female solo parent and when my children were 2 and less than 1 year respectively, I went back to work and their Dad 'raised' them for all intents and purposes. Sure I was around sometimes, but certainly not more than not. Who they are is largely a reflection of the habits and like and dislikes and values he gave them. And I will never begin to be able to thank him enough for that. His work was far harder than mine in respect of the family.
So yes, everyone in society - all people - have to play their part in the protection of children - and this is why I (kind of) qualified that statement above by saying "ultimately" - and that reflects my own anecdotal experiences, by no means a quantitative (or even qualitative) premise. Just, as I said, an opinion.