Posts by Lilith __
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Magnitude. A word so overused it's often dropped..."Do you reckon that was a 4.5?", "Nah, that was at least a 4.7!"
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Capture: Colour is the new black, in reply to Islander,
she chose to remember the bad bits, not the attempted concilliation
Islander - how do you think her children feel about this?
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Aftershock. Feb 22nd was one, and there have been sooooo many others.
I’ve noticed myself and a lot of other Cantabrians using “shake” instead of “quake”, maybe after a certain number of earthquakes, “quake” starts to sound like over-dramatising? “Did you feel that shake earlier?”, “If we have a big shake, those always fall down."…..
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Capture: Colour is the new black, in reply to Islander,
If you can forget its history
You mean the massacre at Onawe? I’ve only been on Onawe once and it’s stunningly beautiful but still gave me the creeps.
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Capture: Colour is the new black, in reply to Andrew E,
Akaroa from early 2008
Love that shot. Akaroa on a good day is delightful.
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Up Front: The Up Front Guides:…, in reply to Isabel Hitchings,
finding the same things attractive in an intimate relationship whether the pants stay on or not.
Also. This.
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Up Front: The Up Front Guides:…, in reply to Emma Hart,
A pre-printed, mass-produced t-shirt? :-)
Uh. Yeah! Uh.
I wrote a column about the idea of chemistry, which may be relevant.
Am I allowed to reply to it here? Cos I think the chemistry thing is really complicated, and complicating. The first time I felt desperate desire for someone, I was 19 and it was the most stressful and destructive relationship I ever had. And that desire didn't go away, and still hasn't, but I am never ever going there again. It took me years to get my head sorted out afterwards.
I had one other, healthy happy relationship where we both had the mad desire (and still do) only our relationship didn't work out long term and now we're back to being good friends. He's married someone else and I'm happy for him.
My most successful relationship was with someone I was attracted to but I felt the desire arose more from the strong emotional and intellectual bond we developed, than from something intrinsically physical. Sex was part of the closeness.
But obviously there are other people I've felt close to that I've had no chemistry with. Or not enough to make it work. :-s
I think every relationship has a different dynamic. Passion can burn out or burn perpetually. But I work on the theory that if there are other strong connections, then either way, it'll be OK.
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Up Front: The Up Front Guides:…, in reply to Deborah,
We only found out that we both rather liked Star Trek some months *after* we got married.
lol, it's just as well you're both fans!
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Up Front: The Up Front Guides:…, in reply to Bart Janssen,
My only sexual relationships have been with women who were friends first.
Yep, that’s how I am, too, except with blokes. I have to get to know someone fairly well before I can know whether I’m interested romantically. Doesn’t mean I don’t sometimes feel a spark right away, but I need more than that to be really interested.
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We’re all unique fucking snowflakes, alright?
This. On a t-shirt, please. :-)
I've always hated the idea that there's a script you have to follow, that the right words, the right gestures, in the right order, at the right time, get you there. Ugh. As if other people are like ATM machines.
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Sumner beach after a storm. An inconstant horizon.
