Posts by Russell Brown
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Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to Tess Rooney,
What I do know is that I will avoid Wellington central when the Sevens are on in the future.
Hmmm. It's not the first time that event's come up.
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Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to Sacha,
Don't pick a fight, Sacha, please. It's Friday evening and I want to be able to just watch some TV.
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Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to Joanna,
When I said Sacha liked referring to women as their genitals, it’s this kind of shit that I meant.
Ah. I thought it was the time he got piled on for saying “balls” (And I would stand by the description of that as a pile-on – it was an unpleasant and OTT mob-job. It hurt him.). This is the time he was attacked, a couple of years ago I think, by the same group for complaining about the Kardashians dominating the news. He certainly shouldn’t have said “twat” to a woman.
And sure if you’d like to derail what I said, then by all means, post screenshots of me calling men cocks, just make sure you’re also posting screenshots of the dominant culture that has for thousands of centuries treated women purely as breeding machines.
I would not do so. Why would I do so?
You’ve sneered on Twitter just now about “back-patting” on the last couple of pages of this thread, but to me the ability to resolve is actually better than constant conflict. It’s the reason the site is still here after all this time.
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Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to Joe Wylie,
Although the guy appeared to be totally out of it he instantly reverted to schoolboy mode and obeyed.
I wonder if that’s a boot boy thing. Making a point of exercising authority seemed to work with them, as I remember it. I recall an uninvited group beating up David Mitchell from Goblin Mix (it was always Dave who got it) at one of my parties and me sending them packing by simply ordering them out. Mind you, they did nick a flag and kick in the glass in the door downstairs on their way out …
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Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to izogi,
Am I right in thinking that there’s a substantial link between this form of sexual harassment, at least, and bullying culture?
I think there's a huge connection there – and one where we can actually draw a link with the Prime Ministerial ponytail-pulling and breakfast radio stunts. It's the cruelty.
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Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to nzlemming,
Fair point, and acknowledged.
Cheers man. I didn't always do well either. Have a good weekend.
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Polity: This is Why, This is Why I Fight, in reply to Rob Salmond,
Thanks all for your very nice welcome. And thanks also for your kind words about Sophie. I’m glad people find value in learning about struggles such as hers.
One of the principles of this place is that the sharing of opinions is good – but the sharing of experiences is the most valuable thing. Thanks for doing that.
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This might be the latest-breaking major tour news I've ever seen. Prince and his piano are coming – this month!
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Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to Bart Janssen,
I would normally totally agree with you. Except the tone of that part of the conversation has shifted from discussion and trading of ideas to accusation and recrimination and is toxic.
By conflating the two discussions nothing is being progressed in either discussion and folks (or at least I) are getting tired and grumpy in the process.
It can be difficult, but I think it’s a better way of working things out than, well, other ways.
Although I do agree that comments that appear accusatory are unhelpful. They automatically put others on the defensive, and it’s hard to respond well when you’re on the defensive. It also makes others wary of contributing.
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Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to nzlemming,
You know how we talked upthread (contender for WOTY) about intervention, about speaking up when we saw something wrong happening. That’s what I was doing. I made Russell do nothing – he makes his own decisions.
No, quite right, I gave myself a break.
As I noted, you and I were beginning to engage in a dude debate that was blocking the space, so it made sense for me to go and do something else for a while. It's also emotionally exhausting being both responsible for and a participant in a thread like this – I literally do, and did, lie awake at night thinking about it. (I go to some lengths not to see offsite commentaries on what's going on onsite – that's generally just upsetting.)
But maybe you could ease up a bit too. You've been a little bit in danger of telling everyone else how the topic should be discussed, i.e. your way. I know very well that's not your intention, but it can feel that way.
Anyway, it is actually good that we are all still talking after 300+ comments. I do think that in many other places, such a discussion would have burst into a ball of all-consuming flame. So there's that. You're all good people, folks.
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