Posts by Isabel Hitchings
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Wonderful!
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(Admission, I've read the discussion but not Stephen's paper as I don't do pages and pages of maths).
The time issue can only hold any water at all if we think of marriage as an intense, romantic relationship. If we see marriage as a domestic and familial arrangement then it looks very different.
I am (Internet) acquainted with a poly family of four adults and three children and, from what I know, they have a lot of advantages over a two adult family. Double the people engaged in housework and childcare leaves everyone with more time and energy and three full-time incomes allow a rather greater level of comfort than most famiilies with a "stay at home" parent experience. Spreading the domestic and financial burden across more people means that everyone has more, not less, time, energy and resources to spend on their romantic relationships.
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I started watching Shortland Street, to spite a flatmate, maybe a year or two into its run and accidentally fell in love with it. It can be ridiculous and overblown (like Chris's hair) but it has an awkward charm which always sucks me back in and it often really is an excellent cultural snapshot
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Best of luck for today.
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Up Front: Towards a Sex-Positive Utopia, in reply to Emma Hart,
I linked to this repost of a Clarisse Thorn column on Twitter the other day, about whether BDSM is an orientation or not. Which also puts a whole different light on ‘cause’ questions.
I do like that column. It makes sense to me that what is an orientation for some can just be something enjoyable for others. And the argument that it's not OK to discriminate against someone even if they can change who they are is powerful and important.
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Up Front: Towards a Sex-Positive Utopia, in reply to Roger,
It does take a certain personality type to put yourself out there to become a politician, and it is not to big a stretch to suspect that this ‘type’ might align to other proclivities? A basis for some research perhaps?
I think this kind of research, if it were still considered interesting enough to be worth doing, would be a whole lot less problematic in a sex-positive utopia. In a world where some sexual tastes are seen as an indication that those who indulge in them are broken then any research, no matter how well meaning, runs the risk of being used to further discriminate against or attempt to "fix" people. If we get away from that stigma then we can look at why people like the stuff they do simply because it gives us insights into the human condition.
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Hard News: Belief Media, in reply to Russell Brown,
Certain Sounds, perhaps? They were a Christian rock band – or brand, really, given that the lineup changed from year to year – who toured schools.
That's the one - ta.
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This is appalling but also the thing I raced home from school to watch.
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I remember YFC and another lot whose name I don't recall being given stage time at our school assemblies to promote their evening rallies. They would do a couple of covers of popular songs and say something quite mild but people who went to their main events often came back scared and upset. I always thought it was a bit dodgy that they were allowed into state schools and given a captive audience.
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Capture: Better Food Photography, in reply to Russell Brown,
Sometimes, food is more fun when it has been in the fridge too long.
Hummus.
Or after three months in a lunchbox in the redzone - peanut butter and jam sandwich crust.
