Posts by Megan Wegan
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Up Front: Everyone is Wrong. And Right. Whatever., in reply to
But although not every misog-troll is a tech wizard, there’s a relatively high proportion of them in geek circles. Some of those fuckers will keep coming, in part because they have trouble conceiving of the impact of their actions on others, and in part because they don’t manage their own emotional responses well.
And apparently athiest/skeptic circles. Here's our old friend Jen McCreight. (Trigger warning for harassment/assult and general skeeviness.)
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Hard News: Who else forgot to get married?, in reply to
Yeah, same with Madame and Mademoiselle. And I understand WHY Ms came in, totally. I'd just like to believe that we've moved past the point that a single thirty-something year old is a social pariah, and thus needs to hide it.
And so, if you're going to give me a choice on a form, as in all things, make it a real choice. Not the choice of lesser evils.
Which, to bring it back to the original point, if women have the choice whether or not to change their name, it has to be an actual choice. It shouldn't be harder for men to change their name post-marriage, which it seems to be. It shouldn't be something we read anything into, other than that a person wanted to change their name, for whatever reason. Their choice, providing it is actually a choice, is theirs.
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Hard News: Who else forgot to get married?, in reply to
Yeah, this is why I'd prefer to be Person Who Requires No Honorific Because Why Can't My Letter Just Be Addressed To My Full Name?
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Hard News: Who else forgot to get married?, in reply to
Yes. But before there was Ms, there was Mrs MarriedWoman and Miss SingleWoman. I'm completely comfortable being Miss SingleWoman. I don't want to be forced into being Ms AmbiguousRelationshipStatus.
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Hard News: Who else forgot to get married?, in reply to
But this is the thing. I don't want to. I don't particularly want to be anything, but if I absolutely must use an honorific, I will be Miss, thanks. I hate having Ms forced on me by forms.
Having said that, I'm with Deborah. If Mrs meant "grown woman", not "married woman", I'd be much happier. But it doesn't.
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Hard News: Who else forgot to get married?, in reply to
Then use Mr or Dr or Rev.
I was for a brief and wonderful interlude, a Dame. Sadly, I'm not actually allowed to claim that one, nor, in fact, Mr, Dr, or Rev.
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Hard News: Who else forgot to get married?, in reply to
What annoys my partner is that things like airlines demand titles, and she a) hates being called “Mrs” and b) dislikes being called “Miss” or “Ms”. Thus far it has not been enough motivation for her to chase a doctorate…
I am not a Mrs, and I hate being called Ms. You'd be astounded how many forms don't have Miss as an option.
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See you there.
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Hard News: Not good enough, Eden Park, in reply to
Oh, indeed. Just wondering if there’s anything we can all learn from this happening, so we can better combat it in future.
It's a different situation, and I am wearing of threadjacking, so I am sorry if I am, but...it's like street harassment, innit?
I can remember a dude yelling from his car about how he'd like to [insert violent comment involving a crowbar], on Courtenay Place, in daylight, in full view of about four other people. I get concerns over safety (obviously), and not wanting to get involved, but...how much would change if we could step up and say "dude. Not cool."
Or, at the very least, go grab a security guard, and ask them to keep an eye on the guys doing it? [ETA, and I guess, the security guards having the backing of management to deal with it.]