Posts by Bart Janssen
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Field Theory: Drinking & Insomnia & the…, in reply to Hadyn Green,
My TV right now is 65” and 4K… I see EVERYTHING O_O
pfffft 2.8m screen with projector.
It's so big even my partner enjoys* sport on it.
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and there were a few to choose from
Looking at those faces it occurs to me that you could not do that sport if you'd had botox on the forehead.
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Hard News: Poor Choices, in reply to giovanni tiso,
but I think it would be dangerous to limit the former for fear of the latter
But from what I've seen I tend to think NZ society errs too far onto the side of abuse and bullying. It's pretty much standard management training to learn how to bully without getting a lawsuit, not to learn how to manage without bullying but instead to avoid a lawsuit.
So while I acknowledge the importance of criticism in a healthy society I think we could with shifting the balance that we currently have.
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Hard News: Poor Choices, in reply to Dylan Reeve,
Isn’t a lot of bullying somewhat “in the eye of the beholder” – it’s hard for any given person (the proposed bully) to know what another person (the bullyee) may take to heart.
I’ve unwittingly said some very hurtful things to some people entirely unknowingly and unintentionally.
Bullying is in the eye of the victim and yes sometimes the bully does not realise. But the measure is if, after being told that their actions constitute bullying and/or harassment, they continue, THEN they are a bully.
And as a note NZ society in general is way way too tolerant of bullying. Far to often it victim is told to "harden up" instead of the bully being told to shape up or pack up their office.
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Hard News: Poor Choices, in reply to Sue,
I suspect i’ll delete this post
Please don't. It might just help someone else to know that other people have those thoughts.
Thank you for sharing.
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Hard News: Poor Choices, in reply to Emma Hart,
don't use someone else's death to make your point
Yes but ...
Sure don't use a specific person's death and their specific details to make a point
But we use death to make a point all the time, and rightly so. The key is to use generic issues around death not specific issues about the person.
In this case you could use Ms Dawson's death to talk about depression and the possibility it played a part in her suicide. You could use the incident as a leaping off point for a productive discussion about the impacts of depression. Or even as a discussion about the suicide problem we have in NZ.
Oh and the golden rule, with due respect to Michele A'Court, she's wrong. the rule on the internet has been and always will be
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Notes & Queries: Little CD in a Prospect…, in reply to Miche Campbell,
Herald ought to be ashamed
hehe you made a funny.
You know I'd be happy to stop talking about Cone and the Herald. There are more important things on the table. Some folks have lost a friend. All of us have been reminded how fragile life is and how easy it is for someone to succumb to depression.
There are many times in life when we need help from our friends and many when we can give that help to others, perhaps those are more worthwhile things to talk about.
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Notes & Queries: Little CD in a Prospect…, in reply to Sacha,
like a car
In that case it's definitely best if I stay quite far away :).
The house I can fix :).
I think the problem for me is I can fix quite a lot of things. I even have experience with many human problems and can pass on that experience, I can even sometimes see how the very human problems we all face can be fixed ... sometimes. All that makes it so very very hard to STFU and just listen.
Some of the best threads here have been a stream of people "listening", very actively listening. It's a mark of just how good this community is.
Damn something got in both my eyes again ...
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Hard News: Let's do some commerce, in reply to Sacha,
doesn't include the word 'sector' :)
or strategic?
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Notes & Queries: Little CD in a Prospect…, in reply to Craig Ranapia,
you – or anyone else – can fix
Yup hardest thing for me to do is NOT try and fix someone. It goes against everything in my nature. I fail at NOT trying to fix a lot. I do try and remember about the best thing I can do is just listen.