Posts by Lilith __
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Hard News: Not good enough, Eden Park, in reply to Megan Wegan,
I get concerns over safety (obviously), and not wanting to get involved, but…how much would change if we could step up and say “dude. Not cool.”
My [total amateur] understanding of using the bystander effect is that if a bystander draws the attention of other bystanders to the abusive situation, then the bystanders can deal with the abuser/bully together. As opposed to one person confronting the offender.
But I’ve never been in that situation to know whether it works.
ETA: and obviously, if it's a group of twatcocks, that's different again.
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Hard News: Not good enough, Eden Park, in reply to Russell Brown,
There are various reasons people might not have confronted pissed, abusive twentysomething males – including not being fully aware of what was taking place.
Oh, indeed. Just wondering if there’s anything we can all learn from this happening, so we can better combat it in future.
[and I know the management should be setting up better systems, just wondering what the rest of us can do, if those aren't functioning. Strategies! What are some good ones?]
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Is the bystander effect relevant here?
OK so no-one is getting murdered in this case, but is there a similar problem with abusive behaviour in a crowd? Everybody expects someone else to take care of it, so nobody does anything?
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Capture: Two Tales of a City, in reply to Stephen Judd,
Coming to Gerry’s defence doesn’t come naturally to me, but is he actually behind this? If I understand the article correctly, it’s this lot who make that decision. Brownlee’s not making the threat here.
Brownlee was the one who made the letter public, rather than taking the issue up directly with the council. And as Eugenie Sage says,
“Sage said practical help to increase the council’s capacity to process consents would be ‘’ a more constructive measure than engaging in a blame game’’. [ article ]
I imagine the IANZ is just doing its job. But the CCC consents staff is struggling with an extraordinary number of applications, in the aftermath of a major disaster...I don't think noncompliance with the usual processing targets is very surprising.
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Capture: Two Tales of a City, in reply to Sacha,
Did the council CEO manage any brewery pissups in his previous job? Not impressing on this front.
He's not beloved by the public. There was a street protest a while back specifically asking for his removal.
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Capture: Autumn lite, in reply to Jos,
Oh Rob Dickinson, great guy.
It would appear the answer to my question is "get a really fast, wide-angle lens". :-) -
Capture: Two Tales of a City, in reply to Hebe,
I also think it’s pretty ironic for the Minister in charge of EQC and CERA to be calling other people too slow!
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Capture: Two Tales of a City, in reply to Hebe,
Who needs democracy anyway? It just gets in the way of getting things done.
And it's not like building standards are important. We're never gonna have another quake.....
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Capture: Autumn lite, in reply to BenWilson,
That's a really beautiful photo. Would the photographer (or anyone) like to talk about how it was taken?
The problem I have with exposures of more than a few seconds at night is that I get star trails. -
The power and beauty of friendship is that no one is "in charge". It requires mutual openness and vulnerability. It's dynamic and changeable. Friends listen to each other; nobody tries to "fix" anybody.
The institutional response to disability is so often to objectify, to treat a person as a set of "problems" to be solved.
Friendship is transformative on both sides. That's why David's story is so compelling, I think.