Posts by Russell Brown
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Hard News: Rape and unreason, in reply to Nat D,
That’s a cop-out. The conversations are a lot easier to have than you think
But, as Bart says, it’s easy to get it wrong in them. I think it’s a freakin’ modern marvel that this particular, very, very frank conversation hasn’t blown to smithereens like it might have in many other places on the internet.
As the extremely wise Emma Hart has been known to say, read kindly. Assume good faith. And carry on.
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Hard News: Rape and unreason, in reply to Bart Janssen,
It’s why I’m not a fan of the jargon around the issue. You spend so much time ’splaining the jargon that the point is missed. I do get why the jargon exists, just that it sometimes slows the discussion.
I’ve just been thinking about that, on re-sighting a comment of mine upthread about “trigger warning”. Not everyone has to use the same words for everything, but the way I phrased it (“not a fan of”) was, well, pretty wanky. Sorry about that.
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Hard News: Thursday Music: Doing the Business, in reply to Tony Siu,
Wow. So its not so big studio in NY or something…
Nope. Light-industrial area in Morningside, Auckland.
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Hard News: Rape and unreason, in reply to Megan Wegan,
The message that sexual assault isn’t ok needs to be sent to women too. Because while men are overwhelmingly committing these crimes, some women do too. Probably more than we realise.
And probably more to the point -- as Dylan illustrated in that jury story on page one -- some women are enabling crimes on women. That's much more common than women committing these crimes, I suspect.
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Hard News: Thursday Music: Doing the Business, in reply to Geoff Lealand,
But hold back on the Abba references–I hear little that is Swedish in their music. You need to go back to their first release Funeral, to get a sense of how ground-breaking they are
Just that one song. And they said it ...
But I'm pretty struck by where they're going now. As James Dann put it to me, it's as if Talking Heads were on DFA Records. Taut, danceable, smart, big-band stuff.
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Hard News: Thursday Music: Doing the Business, in reply to Geoff Lealand,
See how you like this cover of 'The Suburbs'. It's pretty sweet.
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Hard News: Thursday Music: Doing the Business, in reply to Robyn Gallagher,
I don’t know what the bottom floor is like (where Golden Age studios is) but the top floor was all these offices (or bedrooms!) with gorgeous wood panelling.
I popped in to see Campbell Smith recently -- and that's still how it is.
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From the attached document above, quotes from perpetrators of family violence:
nobody was willing to come out and help us or ask our parents what’s going on … we thought it was normal… We just looked at it that this wasn’t a problem, [because] no one was here telling us otherwise.
And …
you begin to develop this whole psyche that this must be normal, everyone else is doing it. Everyone else gets the same result and it wasn’t until I was exposed to a different way of seeing life that I recognised that there was something going on here.
It does seem that de-normalising violence, and making it clear that not everyone does it, was very important.
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I thought people might like to see where Lorde’s music was recorded, so I hopped on my bike earlier. It’s quite an interesting building ….
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Hard News: Rape and unreason, in reply to Jolisa,
report-on-giving-receiving-and-seeking-help.doc
The “raping people is not okay” conversation is transparently one that needs to be happening, and the linguistic finessing of how we have that conversation is no small matter. It IS pretty much the whole matter.
Which might be a useful point to talk about the very successful It’s Not OK campaign. There’s still a team on that campaign at MSD (they’re reading this thread!) and it was suggested that the attached report (Word doc, see above) might be useful. The parts about the perpetrators of family violence particularly so.
There are a number of elements to the success of the campaign, but two key ones, I think are:
– It spoke to everyone, including those committing violence.
– Men (including me) spoke to men about it.
And maybe that’s another way of looking at the present argument. It’s not just “what about teh menz?” to raise this, it’s also “what’s the most effective thing to say, and way to say it, to men?”
