Posts by Emma Hart
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How about "Beneficiary", as in Friends With.
That does sort of imply that I'm doing someone a favour.
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BTW, I note a weird attitude in your post that implies that you think marriages are superior to civil unions. I'd argue that it's exactly the opposite - civil unions are clearly superior because they're available to more people.
That's not what I think, it's what I believe the social attitude is, otherwise we wouldn't have this "stepping stone" position where politicians were happy to go this far, but no further. Having the right to marry, whether you choose to or not, is superior to not having it.
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but to me a "lover" doesn't convey equalness or really any kind of relationship beyond the sexual connection, unlike "partner"
Well, there's a shade of difference in meaning between 'lover' and, say 'bonk', or 'fuckbuddy' or 'shag'. And as Megan said, you can change its connotations with the way you pronounce it. But yes, it does rather imply impermanence.
I am married, and the word hubby still drives me mad.
The woman who was using 'hubby', and persisted even after I asked her not to, was, I believe, doing it because she simply could not get her head around the idea of a Good Relationship that wasn't a marriage. It's a horrendous, ghastly word, like 'wifey'.
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Sacha: obviously something I can't publicly discuss.
the word encompasses everything you need to know about our relationship and makes life infinitely simpler
Simplicity is the reason I often let strangers refer to me by the wrong surname - because they're relating me to either my partner or my children. Only, yes, if it carries on it becomes incredibly awkward and embarassing to correct.
I just thought about what would happen if I said "wife" and actually used air quotes
That IS dodgier than "lover".
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This whole thing is making me think that Malcolm Gladwell is completely wrong about twitter/facebook and social activism. The lunch counter sit-ins worked precisely because they grew out of social networks; if the participants had had electronic media to augment their communications, they'd have used them without a second thought.
I don't get this, I really don't. If people can understand the necessity and utility of the telephone, why not Twitter? Why does it make sense to be snobby and scathing about one and not the other?
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What are you saying about Emma -- don't forget Gwen Cooper is a married woman with a bub, and she's pissed off to the States to boot. :)
I can't fucking STAND Gwen Cooper. In related news, OMG Ianto.
Pointless threadjacking trivia: John Barrowman and his husband Scott had to move because they were constantly being woken up by tourist boat speaker systems right outside their apartment block saying, "And this is where John Barrowman lives..."
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Wot! You mean a billboard of Sam Worthington in front of a green screen wouldn't make you want to come to New Zealand on holiday? :)
I'd love to see some figures on what BBC Wales has done for Cardiff tourism in the last five years or so.
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btw, I believe that in California you can swim and ski on the same day too, maybe that's why Hollywood is there.
Indeed, California is well proud of its history of snow-bound cannibalism.
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Jacqueline Carey (Kushiel's Dart)
Dear Lucy,
I love you very much.
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(Anyone else have automatic soundtracks attached to everyday objects, or should I give Oliver Sacks a call?)
Not music, but dialogue. And once my brain has decided we're doing it, there's nothing I can do but wait, and look like an idiot, until it's finished. It's not so bad when it's just "Oo, an orange, let's do that "thinking of something orange" bit from The Vidiot from UHF", but when it's two and half pages from The Hitch-Hiker's Guide, it does get a bit tiring.