Posts by Emma Hart
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I do not have the study paper at hand
Knock yourselves out. (Oooh, shiny raw data...)
I keep hearing this 'doubled' trope, and it's really caught on in Britain for reasons I'll get into in a minute. But it is completely unsubstantiated, and I don't know where it came from in the first place. Note that 'doubled' doesn't seem to be a big enough lie for Gold, so she reaches for "some outreach workers say it has even quadrupled". Really? Not the NZPC. Some other outreach workers. Can't remember their names right now.
But it's not just annoying. There's considerable debate in the UK right now about changing to a Swedish model of prostitution law, where being a prositute is legal but using a prostitute is not. (Say I'm a hairdresser, which is legal, but it's illegal to get a haircut. Am I going to be in a well-lit shiny mall being picky about my customers? No I'm not.)
This has to involve coming up with some way of saying that the New Zealand model doesn't work. And if that means flat-out lying, Guardian columnists don't seem to have any problem with that.
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As for sordid. Well there is a nude calendar with a picture of me when I was 19, but that was artistic - I think.
This probably isn't a thread I want to introduce the phrase 'jpgs or it didn't happen' onto.
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One thing tho', I'm poly but not into threesomes/group sex. What is up with that?
I dislike having my attention split, it always makes me feel like I'm not Being My Best.
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Ooo, are we all posting our sordid stories about Nat Torkington?
YES
I'm all fevered and ghastly this morning, but you people are all completely brilliant (albeit in a very scary manner) and making a pick on this is going to be very difficult.
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With each other?
Erm, yes, that. And I believe Isabel has summed up the basis of the dispute quite nicely there.
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This is starting to sound a bit clinton-esque. "What do you mean by 'sexual relations'?"
Oddly, in these coversations it emerged that a friend of mine and I disagree as to whether or not we've had sex.
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Y'know, Emma, there was a moment at the Thistle, where you had just finished a story, and the thought bouncing around my head was "OMG! You didn't sleep with him, I always assumed you had"
Um. My memories of the Thistle are a little fuzzy. But if that's the person and story I think it is, I didn't sleep with him then.
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Interesting that it seems even more stigmatized than the sex-work itself. A modern thing maybe?
Stigmatised differently in different places. So, in Tanya Gold land, prostitutes (always female) are poor helpless victims who are sometimes so deluded they don't realise what a terrible time they're having. They need decisions made for them by generous middle-class women who've never so much as met a prostitute.
But the men (always men) who use prostitutes are scum, and basically rapists, because it is, somehow, impossible to consent to sex in exchange for money.
There would still be, however, many people who'd be happier to have their child visit a prostitute than be one.
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I highly doubt we'll hear anyone speak unanonymously of their experiences as a customer of prostitution. Doomed to be a one-sided story.
Not unanonymously, no, the stigma is quite massive. But they do occasionally comment or guest-post on sex-worker blogs, as do the partners of sex workers.
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Now, Emma, that's a wingman.
Oh come on, don't even suggest I might have to make that choice. That's mean.
OTOH, at the MCG? Megan gets bonus points. But Tom's story involves a life-sized cardboard Wolverine, so also accrues bonus points.
Mildly relatedly, yesterday I attempted to find a cricket game I could go to with my partner, as our perfect romantic summer outing. Know what Chch gets this summer? Fuck. All. So we're going to White Ferns vs Australia Twenty/20 followed by Black Caps vs Australia Twenty/20 on the 28th of February. I'd rather be at a test.