I couldnt' believe the sloppy sites with crappy databases of users taking police line up photos and writing desperate…

Unrelatedly a good friend of mine described having a son as
being like 'having a flatmate who never cleans up or pays the
rent & is permanently on LSD'

behind the tin of Oak beetroot

Gary, if you have tins of Oak beetroot languishing in your cupboard, please send them to me here in the US. What a hug from home they would be!

Meanwhile, a friend of mine met her ex through NZ dating – he knowingly gave her herpes, cheated…

Who doesn't remember the promise of a pash behind the bike sheds and a chain that turned you neck green?

Ohmigod – that was YOU?

Meanwhile, Any truth to the rumour you're on the next series of Dancing With the Stars Damian?

my god Tom, time on your hands or what?

Well, I was in the middle of doing a bunch of census analysis for work, so it didn't take too long to crunch a few other numbers and bang out a new graph.

You should see what I get up to…

they just keep talking

It's not me, it's YOU! No wait....

I dutifully called and I also dutifully listened while he told me that he was going to cancel the upcoming date

Urgh, that's the most horrible thing about guys calling it off – they just keep talking. On and on and on! Dude! Just say "sorry, I'm not interested", I…

The text asked me to call him at home.

He probably considers himself a real gentleman for having the decency to call it off on the phone rather than a "the date's off, grandma" text.

The text…

Ah ha. Geddit

http://www.kiwihouse.org.nz/

(I was actually, in Otorohonga, and I did actually see birds.…

But because we're both obviously cheap-arses, it can't go any further until one of us digs into our pocket…

Go Otoroganga! Their district council homepage "Local Attractions Gallery" isn't representative of the population, then.
Local Attractions Gallery

They should add "Men".

> where do all the eligible men hang out these days?

The ones that aren't married are overseas, in "the provinces", or in the ground

To be precise, they're in Otorohanga, Ruapehu, MacKenzie, Queenstown Lakes, Southland, Clutha and the Chathams. Oh, and Upper Hutt (does that count as "the provinces"?)…

There is a huge grinning photo of my recent ex partner ... apparently the computer had found my 'perfect match' and I fulfilled all the requirements of his dream woman...

Did you put down that you liked pina coladas and taking walks in the rain?

I don't need to go…

I'd have to point out that in the UK and in the US there's quite a few fake profiles there to target unsuspecting, genuine people. A variation of the "Nigerian letters".

Profiles with "I've had tough times" and especially repetition…

where do all the eligible men hang out these days?

The ones that aren't married are overseas, in "the provinces", or in the ground, according to The Herald and Statistics NZ in this recent article:

Man drought deepens
"Demographers say several factors are causing the increasing gender gap, including the…

I don't need to go on an Internet date, I just thought it might be interesting to do so

Oh, sorry, I thought you seriously wanted our help in getting laid.

how is hanging around in bars / at parties trying to pick up strangers any better?

Can you pick…

However, for some people like me there seems to have come a point where most (almost all) of my friends are long-term couples, either married, living together, having kids or a…

how is hanging around in bars / at parties trying to pick up strangers any better?

It's absolutely not better, you're right webweaver. In fact, I find it just as embarassing to say that my husband and I first got together when out at a club ;-) But my experience,…

I tend to agree with Carmel B – in my experience there's quite a few people with rather high expectations – at least on FSO which I was on for a year or so.

An extreme caricature of someone of this type might be "I'm a bit of…

So much to say.

Kate: Yes I know I work in the media and without going into a Cactus-Kate relevatory discussion of the various comings and goings in my life, (not least of all because Russell simply wouldn't allow me to sully his new site in such…

And that is where I met my now wife and mother of our two kids.

No, its not something we proclaim widely and loudly...…

I have a sneaking suspicion that there's a bigger pool to fish from and considerably less chance of bumping into people you know (that said, a female colleague I see every day signed onto…

... hang-up answering the “so where did you two meet” with anything that ends in a “dot co dot en zed”.

Time to get over that one, I think. Is it really the case that "at a friend's party" (omitting "after which we had drunken monkey-sex") is somehow more deserving…

Sometimes guys have a clock too I guess ;)

This is true. I have several guy friends who are way cluckier than me.

I've only ever been on one actual date in my life, as most of my relationships (or non starters) have been the result of the good ol'…

However I'll freely share my Internet dating experiences. I started out trying Internet dating as I'd returned from working in the UK, spent a year on full-time study and had essentially a limited pool of friends to introduce me to new…

Yes you have to sift…

I mean the whole purpose of being famous or even mildly is that members of the opposite sex are shallowly attracted to you by watching you on TV or even reading something you write in a newspaper or on the internet.

Actually, Kate's kind of right – Damian, you need…

For goodness sake, you have a blog, you work in the media.

What the hell do you need to go looking for a date on an internet site??

I mean the whole purpose of being famous or even mildly is that members of the opposite sex are shallowly attracted…

Sometimes guys have a clock too I guess ;)

Our frustration has been difficulty in concieving. First attempt took two and a half years, 2nd…

I came across a few too many dolphin loving, beach-walking, chick-flick connossieurs than should be allowed in any one place as representative of their gender.

There is an unusually high number of men on dating sites who claim to like beach walking and wine drinking.

Both are fine activities, but…

Yeah, I can confirm that "I'm on TV" works for me (slightly less often than "I'm an airline pilot" though.

Yes, I feel somewhat sheepish about this.

>current wife of 5 years on nz dating dot co dot nz. We have a beautiful 3 year old son and she's currently 2 days overdue with our 2nd

then did the wife-to-be tick the “Wants to have children within two years”…

The former I can understand, the latter some might consider a bit harsh.

I'd have dumped him for using the phrase "dance good".

(That was tongue in cheek, BTW. Where's the Sarcasm Font when you need it?)

I do love Brendhan Lovegrove's line though: "So I have a son. I'm not with…

Classic story.....
Myself and my flatmate signed up to online dating about a month ago (in my…

Fortunately he found a nice widow

Let's hope that whatever caused her last marriage to break up isn't still there :)

Never internet dated, but once, for a period of several months, managed a telephone dating service for the owner who had suffered a terrible family tragedy (was supposed to…

My favourite profile was from a nice but frustrated young man who had been compelled to state that he…