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  • Up Front: Does My Mortgage Look Like a…,

    Sacha - very recently and many times before in (family) anti-violence campaigns.

    " I should note that as a *human being*, I never bear responsibility for someone else attacking me physically. The person doing the attacking is the responsible party. That's how it works."

    Daniel - I'm sorry, but I find this kind of thinking is just abstract intellectual wank (and which I suspect feminist departments turn out at about the same rate as economics departments do). Back on earth, where we are forced to deal with a hodgepodge mixture of individuals in various states of wellness and unwellness, I would sooner deal with a moral code that recognises nuances like that. The rapist is demonstrably, clearly unwell (can you point to a well one?). The victim is a member of a society that has demonstrably failed to deal with the rapists unwellness. So how does everyone (including the victim) suddenly get to wash their hands of the actions of the unwell person? Oh, that's right, unwell people can reasonably be expected to behave like well ones, and can be held to the same standards.

    Wellington • Since Nov 2008 • 33 posts Report Reply

  • Up Front: Does My Mortgage Look Like a…,

    "What we shouldn't have to do is constantly say (as Deborah did upthread) is that the only thing there needs to be for a rape to happen is a rapist. What the victim is wearing/doing/drinking is irrelevant."

    And this is precisely where we disagree. There is an implicit demand behind this thinking that all rapists be somehow removed from the planet, and that somehow society should conspire to keep the victim absolutely, completely safe iin all circumstances. Funny, we don't apply the same logic to property crimes, but then they don't break down along gender lines..

    To make a very simplistic (but relevant) argument - a large percentage of the population are MENTALLY UNWELL. Going to *any* environment and a percentage of the people there will be unwell. Filling them up with piss is certainly not going to make them behave better. Getting off yer face yourself and going into such an environment, dressed in such a way as to attract maximum attention, is not, shall we say, an act of thoughtful self-care.

    In these circumstanmces, it's ridiculous (and naive) to say the victim bears absolutely no responsibility.

    Wellington • Since Nov 2008 • 33 posts Report Reply

  • Up Front: Does My Mortgage Look Like a…,

    So I'm very late to this party..

    but I want to add a few words to back Stewart (and to observe how strange it is that he seemed to have to bend over backwards to avoid giving offence - funny how the left has become quite so delicate...)

    This world is unfair and shit happens. Smart people (dare I say it) will try and avoid that shit happening to them. That means everything from taking care where you get your financial advice, putting deadbolts on the doors and, yes, not getting completely off your face, dressing to maximise the likelihood of unwanted attention, then going to places with lots of people who are also guaranteed to be liquored and very likely a few with poor judgement or in poor control of their actions. Don't want to get mugged? Avoid walking down dodgey streets in dodgey neighbourhoods in the middle of the night. When exactly did this wisdom of the ages become so goddam controversial?

    I'm not really a fan of the Listener's current incarnation, but I do enjoy the fact it's become one of the few places willing to say some of the things it's become politically impossible to repeat in public. Like is it possible that with the wisdom of hindsight, Green was effectively lynched by an angry feminist mob for being a male surgeon in the wrong place and time?

    None of this is to say women "earn" or "deserve" bad shit and sometimes unwanted attention that happens, anymore than men do. But we might be far better off to begin by squaring up the fact that we are never going to live in a safe, utopian society (and that one has never existed anywhere that I'm aware of), rather than jumping to the conclusion that advocating taking personal responsibility for the safety of one's self and possessions (and yes that may mean criticising the naivete in those who refuse to square up to that adult responsibility) is in no way implicit support for the "evildoers". (Sorry, had to get an evildoers in there somewhere.. ;-)

    Wellington • Since Nov 2008 • 33 posts Report Reply

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